Limiting beliefs are something that can hold us back from life. Just like fear and following the path of the “shoulds”, limiting beliefs are something that can keep us from getting to where we want to be. Want to know the scary part? Unlike fears and following the “shoulds” limiting beliefs are sneaking little things that are really good at hiding from us YET they can have control over us.
This week’s blog post is 5 questions to uncover what limiting beliefs you might hold. The sooner we can identify them, the sooner we can do something about them.
I recommend journaling as you answer the questions. I’ve included some coaching tips under each question to help get your wheels turning.
1. What are things that you see other people doing that make you feel scarce in your own life?
Think about things that make you feel less-than or limited. I.e. She got that promotion because she has her MBA, and I don’t, therefore I can’t get a promotion like that.
2. When you describe yourself, what do you usually tell people that you always/never do?
Using absolute language like “I always…” or “I never…” creates a limited description of yourself. When stress testing this question, challenge yourself if what you are saying truly always or never happens.
3. What areas of your life do you wish you could be more confident in?
Here’s 8 categories of life to help get you started: friends, family, finances, work/career, personal development/spirituality, physical environment, romantic/intimate relationships and health/fitness. Expand on the question by thinking about what would make you more confident in a certain area.
4. What were the common messages you heard from your parents or other role models growing up?
Think of common phrases, family mantras, friendly reminders…In junior high I heard the phrase “make it a great day or not, the choice is yours” every single day. I don't think that created limiting beliefs in my mind but it's an example :) Not every answer has to have a limiting belief behind it.
5. What motivation quote(s) make you want to yell “bull shit!” every time you hear them?
Kind of self-explanatory… one quote that drives me crazy is “just be patient”.
Now the fun part…
The Stress Test. The stress test for each answer is to determine what part of your answer is absolutely true and what part is totally wackadoodle. The wackadoodle answers are usually where the limiting beliefs live. Happy hunting!