6 Things I've Learned in 6 Months of Having My Own Business

Everme Coaching celebrated its 6 month birthday yesterday! I can’t believe how quickly time has gone! I am feeling more motivated, driven and connected to my purpose than ever before. The last 6 months have been transformative for me as an individual and in true coaching fashion, it has also been transformative for those who I have been so lucky to have coached along the way.

This week’s post is a highlight of the six biggest lessons I’ve learned over the last six months of being a business owner.


Number 1: Time will slip through your fingers like sand if you let it.

I’ve always been sensitive to my time, managing my time and the finite way in which time operates. But, since becoming a business owner on top of all the other thing I have going on in my life, it’s so obvious how quickly time escapes us.

Even when I think I’m setting aside enough time to write a blog post or prep for a client or review different aspects of my business, I’ve usually underestimated the time it takes. Now, I’ve learned to overestimate how much time I think something will take. I’ve also learned to better align my schedule to make sure I do have enough time without feeling rushed or like I have too much on my plate.

Number 2: Feedback is rare.

I’m used to being in a corporate environment where feedback (although not always solicited or accurate) flies around the office like a bird in a cage. I assumed, prior to launching Everme, that because A) I am open to feedback and B) I am no stranger to asking for feedback, that I would be able to get feedback left and right about how Everme is doing.

BOY WAS I WRONG! I will receive feedback when I explicitly ask my trusted sources but since starting a business, feedback makes its way to me to me in weird ways. One way is what I like to call “through the grapevine”. Someone tells someone else what they like or dislike about what I’m doing and then the person they told tells me. I long to be a part of those conversations. Can you imagine the raw, open and honest feedback that happens when I am not there?! Gosh, feedback gems flying around left and right that could help me better serve this world and I get about 2 of them to try to make sense of on my own with little context or conversation.

Another way is through a random compliment. I’ll run into someone I haven’t seen in a while or find myself in a similar exchange except via text or email, and they’ll drop the bomb “I love your blog/instagram/insert something here”. I love this form of feedback because it’s a reminder that when I take the time to pour my thoughts and perspectives out onto the digital page, people are actually reading it AND enjoying it! It’s not the cyber black hole that it sometimes feels like.

Number 3: Get a new elevator speech.

Before I even had a business to speak of, I could rattle off an elevator speech like a champ. I was quick, confident and articulate. Why? Because I was wearing hats I was used to. “Employee”, “friend”, “fiance”, “daughter”, etc, were all comfortable hats for me to wear. Then, 6 months ago, I slapped on the “business owner” and “coach” hats, and it was like the feeling you get when you accidentally put on someone else's flip flop. SO uncomfortable and awkward yet it feels good to have a shoe on.

I catch myself using this phrase “I’m working at XYZ while I am starting my life coaching business”. You’re probably thinking - that’s accurate and clear so what’s wrong with it? I’ll tell you. I cringe when I say this because it’s selling myself short. The real speech is “I am a Life Coach. My business, Everme Coaching, empowers men and women to lead unapologetic lives, relationships and life purposes. While I am not doing that, I work as a consultant at a large financial services company in the twin cities”. BAM!

Number 4: Make time to build a solid foundation.

Early on, a lot of the work I have done has been dedicated to trial and error, for the sake of really crafting the story behind Everme Coaching. It continues to evolve, but it is important for me to be grounded in my personal mission, vision and values before putting it in stone for Everme.

I spend most of my time looking at Everme from 30,000 ft in the air and through a lens of legacy. What do I really want to accomplish? Who am I really here to serve? What is the long-term vision for the company?

I’ll admit that part of why I hang out in this arena so much is because it’s comfortable for me and it’s what I’m good at. Nitty gritty details aren’t my sweet spot but I’ll hang around them when I need to.

The real reason why I am so focused on establishing a powerful foundation is because what I envision has the power to transform thousands, a hundred thousand or dare I even say it, millions of lives. This is not a “side hustle” or a “hobby” for me. This is my life purpose and my life ministry that I am crafting for the sake of serving others… and that is not to be taken lightly!

Number 5: Make it your own.

Ok, so you won’t be surprised to know I did, and continue to do, a lot of research about businesses, coaching businesses, marketing practices, sales techniques, etc. BUT I have realized along the way that I got really trapped in what I thought I should do vs. what felt right for me. I was trying to craft my business based on what other people have done WITHOUT fully vetting what my own spin on it would be.

In one of my training classes along the way, someone bottom lined it for me and told me about the 1,000 year test. She asked, “If this was 1,000 years ago, how would you get it done?” Then, things became very simple. It put the ball back in my court to make this into what I wanted it to be without overthinking and overcomplicating it.

Number 6: Be grateful!

I’ve said this before, but there has been so much that has happened in the last 6 months that overwhelms me with the feeling of deep gratitude but leaves me absolutely speechless. I am in awe at the many ways in which the people around me have helped carry me forward. Your support, coaching, mentorship, advice, direction and feedback have been the biggest gifts to my business. Anything from liking a post to telling me straight up what you think about what I am doing makes such an impact. You are the reason I am doing this. Here I was thinking I would put all this good coaching out in the world and make it a better place and I am just HUMBLED by how much I have received as a result.

SO to thank you…. I am excited to announce a FREE webinar going on this Saturday October 1 at 9:00 AM CST!

I’m hosting a webinar that takes my Quarterly Personal Retreat concept and condenses it down to 1 hour.

If you’re ready to get intentional with your life and your time, then this webinar is right for you. We’ll reflect on the last 90 days, visualize the next 90 days and set some action-oriented goals for you to accomplish in the next 90 days.

Don’t let 2016 come to a close without investing in yourself. You work hard all of the time and now it’s time to work SMART.

Registration closes on Friday September 30 at 8:00 PM CST.

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