I had an amazing weekend up north with all of my closest girlfriends. We got up to the cabin early on Friday and had the greatest time. We woke up this morning to a beautiful, sunny day, only to realize there was an unshakeable cloud amidst us - the big blue “I don’t want to go to back to work” cloud.
You know the cloud I am talking about. That nagging feeling in your gut reminding you that after a weekend of freedom, you’ll be right back at work in a few short hours. Now, if you love your job, this is probably a mild or possibly nonexistent feeling. But, if you’re not feeling your job, these blues are the real deal. They cause us to feel stressed out, anxious and frustrated. If things are really bad with your job, you might start to feel these blues the second you leave on Friday afternoon because you know that all too soon, you’d be back, feeling more stuck than the prior week.
While sitting around this morning, we reminded ourselves to not think about tomorrow but try and stay focused with the beautiful day we currently had. There was the essence of being fully present, but it was interrupted every couple of hours by that stressful, anxious feeling. The sunday blues are the ultimate sucker of the present.
So what are we to do about it? Tomorrow will inevitably come and any issues we are having with our job will most likely not be solved before we’re off to work (or even before next Sunday). I have three tips for beating these Sunday night blues.
Embrace It. What if you were to embrace thinking about work instead of fighting it? Allow yourself to integrate, rather than separate, your personal side and your professional side. Use the time to think about what needs to happen tomorrow, what you need to get done and define what a successful day will look like. Chances are if you go through this process and take some time to mentally prepare for the next day, you’ll be able to go longer without having to keep pushing the thought aside. (Trust me - the Sunday night blues are just like a infinite headed monster. You try chopping of its head and three more grow like “look at me! Pay attention to me!” If you give in, get control of your thoughts and carry on with your day, it’ll sleep in the corner like that big guard dog in Harry Potter :)).
Start Monday With Me Time. Determine one thing you can do for yourself right away on Monday morning. I get it - Monday’s aren’t the easiest to get up and get moving on, but if you figure out something that’ll get you excited to get up, you’ll find it’s easier to face the day. A few of my favorites are taking my dog for a long walk, knowing I’ve got Starbucks dark roast to brew and listening to an Eagle Brook Church sermon podcast.
Envision The Perfect Monday. Take some time to start brainstorming what the best Monday would be like. There is no limit to what you come up with. It can be as grand or as simple as you want! Here are some questions to help get you started: What would you be doing? What would you NOT be doing? Where would you be? Who would you be with? What is the overall vibe of the day?
If you’re one of those people who has a stomach full of knots right now at the thought of the looming Monday morning, my heart goes out to you! It is a sickening feeling and creates an immense amount of dissonance in our lives. Here’s a Steve Jobs quote that I love and helps remind me that if something is going well, there is still time for change:
“When I was 17, I read a quote that went something like” “If you live each day as if it was your last, someday you’ll most certainly be right.” It made an impression on me, and since then, for the past 33 years, I have looked in the mirror every morning and asked myself: “If today were the last day of my life, would I want to do what I am about to do today?” And whenever the answer has been no for too many days in a row, I know I need to change something.”
If the answer for you has been “no” for too many Sunday nights or Monday morning’s in a row, I’d love to connect with you! As a coach, I am trained to help you figure out where you’re getting stuck and how to get you moving forward with direction and EXCITEMENT! Fill out the form below for a complimentary 30 minute coaching session!